• Ancestral Constellations

    The ‘Power’ in the Letter

    If you don’t ask you can’t find out what you need to know! The ‘Power’ was in the Letter When I read the letter and took it to Guyana, I had a better idea about why I was researching my family heritage. And what I was seeking to find out about my ancestral identity. Back in 1979 my mother wrote to her favourite brother Eustace and asked for more details about their family heritage. My mother’s memory is poor now so I can’t ask her why she did that, but I can only guess that she was homesick and wanted something to remind her of her heritage? Or maybe because she didn’t grow up with her siblings she was looking to reconnect? Details of Family Unknown! For whatever reason, he wrote back and gave her details about their maternal and paternal ancestry, back to their grandparents and great-grandparents.   I…

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    A Healing Ritual for Grief

    Life in Birth and Death Last Thursday it was both my 59th Birthday and the one year passing of my father.  It was a poignant day, full of bittersweet memories of what I have been gifted from my father and the recognition that I won’t see him again, at least in this lifetime. But he is on my ancestral altar and I talk to him constantly.  Those of us born and living in the African Diaspora who are RE-Membering, know that our ancestors walk by our side.  They are with us daily, we honour and respect them, we feed and water them. On the Ancestral Path For the past seven years I have been on an ancestral journey, it started long ago, but the day that I stepped into my first Family Constellations workshop I knew that I was witnessing an African Healing Ritual.  Since that day I have been…

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    Loss, Change and Citizenship

    It’s Been a Summer of Loss and Change! It’s been some time since I’ve written, as my father passed away in May and I’ve taken time out to think and reflect. Loss on that scale really makes you sit up and think about life.  I hadn’t realised that the grief would be so deep and impactful and I still miss and think about him every day. Up until the last few months of my father’s life, I had always had a difficult relationship with him, maybe it was partly that which brought me to family constellations work.  But I am happy that on the last 18 months I was able to reconnect with my father, in love and not anger.  To say the things that needed to be said, about love and respect and honouring his sacrifices, and to heal old wounds. The Ancestral Journey Continues I realise as the weeks have gone…