• Ancestral Constellations

    A Healing Ritual for Grief

    Life in Birth and Death Last Thursday it was both my 59th Birthday and the one year passing of my father.  It was a poignant day, full of bittersweet memories of what I have been gifted from my father and the recognition that I won’t see him again, at least in this lifetime. But he is on my ancestral altar and I talk to him constantly.  Those of us born and living in the African Diaspora who are RE-Membering, know that our ancestors walk by our side.  They are with us daily, we honour and respect them, we feed and water them. On the Ancestral Path For the past seven years I have been on an ancestral journey, it started long ago, but the day that I stepped into my first Family Constellations workshop I knew that I was witnessing an African Healing Ritual.  Since that day I have been…

  • Ancestral Constellations

    Loss, Change and Citizenship

    It’s Been a Summer of Loss and Change! It’s been some time since I’ve written, as my father passed away in May and I’ve taken time out to think and reflect. Loss on that scale really makes you sit up and think about life.  I hadn’t realised that the grief would be so deep and impactful and I still miss and think about him every day. Up until the last few months of my father’s life, I had always had a difficult relationship with him, maybe it was partly that which brought me to family constellations work.  But I am happy that on the last 18 months I was able to reconnect with my father, in love and not anger.  To say the things that needed to be said, about love and respect and honouring his sacrifices, and to heal old wounds. The Ancestral Journey Continues I realise as the weeks have gone…

  • Ancestral Constellations

    Healing and Reconciliation

    Agreed Slavery is Over But…… It’s a subject that’s centre stage and in the background at the same time.  We seem to have forgotten how to discuss these difficult issues, openly and with compassion.  We no longer have a name for this way of focusing on the world.  Nor a clear sense of how to articulate the pain of Black and White relationships like in the past, with the leaders of the US civil rights or Apartheid movement in South Africa. Too often we hear that racism no longer exists, or that we (those of African diaspora heritage) should ‘just get past it’.  But there is a difference between what we might want to believe and the lived experience of many people.  When we see the repeating generational cycles of poverty. When we explore the incarceration of young Black males in prison, both here and the other side of the…