Many people are curious and intrigued by the systemic constellations method but aren't sure about what a 'constellation' is and whether this approach is right for them. On this page, you will find frequently asked questions and answers that I hope will provide you with more clarity on this powerful way of exploring ancestral lineage.
Q. What is a personal constellation?
A. A constellation is a personal 'mapping-process' that looks at your family systemic in a holistic way and can support you in exploring problematic situations and difficult scenarios. For example relationship breakdown, fractured family history or a conflict that feels intractable or unresolvable.
During the constellation, a fuller picture of the issue emerges. Often overlooked or hidden aspects are revealed. The process helps to see the situation from different perspectives and identify steps that will lead to healing or a solution to the issue.
Q. How can a constellation support me?
A. A personal constellation in a group setting can support you in finding out more about your family heritage, in order to re-connect with your cultural history and ancestral line. One of the ways of doing this is through our Ancestral Constellations workshops. Our workshops are for you if there is an area of your family, community or work-life where you feel stuck. Or if there is a problem that you are unable to resolve. The process aims to 'restore love down the ancestral line' by honouring the ancestors that came before you, as well as those in your current family and the wider community.
Q. How does a personal consultation work?
A. A personal constellation in a one-to-one setting begins with a conversation during which you and I will discuss what you want to explore or resolve. You will connect to your heart's desire for the outcome of the session. You will identify what you want to explore and who to include in the constellations.
I will invite you to choose dollies, floor felts or other creative tools and resources to be ‘Representatives’ for your family members or issues. This choosing is based on your intuition or 'feeling’, or sometimes I will choose on your behalf. You will place the representatives within the cloth circle, in relation to each other.
Q. What are 'Representatives?'
A. In a group setting 'representatives' are chosen from other group members. The representatives stand in the position that you placed them in and they will start to sense feelings and emotions. They may have the desire to move or speak as they feel. This ‘living-map’ of your family dynamics is explored further, with questions from the facilitator that reveal what the representatives are feeling.
The representative's ability to attune into the feelings of others helps to surface ‘unknown dynamics’. When these become conscious, expressed and clarified, you can more easily see the way forward. Sometimes more representatives are added to the constellation or taken out.
Q. How does the Ancestral Constellations approach make a difference?
A. A workshop can give you a new perspective on difficulties in inter-personal relationships and wider community issues. You can explore solutions to problems and look at how to resolve or reconcile relationship issues. The purpose is to build strong families for current and future generations.
‘Love’ is the healing force that can transform families and communities. This can be done through the Ancestral constellations process, working alongside healing ritual work. It provides a way to restore the 'flow of love' by looking at your family 'just as it is' within a constellation that shows the different parts of the family system.
Q. What will I gain from the workshop?
A. You will explore a difficult situation by mapping a personal constellation or being a representative. You can identify where there are stuck patterns or relationship cycles that keep appearing through the generations. You will be able to look at your situation from different angles and then explore how you can disentangle or separate from difficult issues. With that comes more peace of mind and clarity.
Q. How many people attend each workshop?
A. Each family constellation workshop has between 10-12 participants. Small enough for safety, large enough to work with the process.
Q. When is it the right or wrong time to attend?
A. A workshop is right for you if you are open, curious and willing to look at your family history in a new way. There may be an area of your family, community or work-life where you feel stuck. Or perhaps you have an intractable problem in a relationship that you would love to resolve, but can't find a way to.
Constellations are a therapeutic way of working and may bring up strong emotions and feelings. It may not be the right time to attend if you are in a very vulnerable stage of your life, if you are feeling very depressed, or have had a recent physical or mental health issue.
Do please talk with me before signing up or call +44 7753634696 if you are unsure whether it is the right time to attend. I am always happy to discuss any issues you may have or answer questions. It may be that we can find a better solution and/or an alternative support system.